More and more lately I’m coming to realize the value of this question. And the value of the answer. I think for a long time the question scared me, because it sounded like an ultimatum. Which is probably because it is an ultimatum. And I know I’ve been told once or twice to ‘never give an ultimatum’. Just double-checked and after typing “never give an ult” Google filled in the rest. So I guess this is something others have heard as well.

But why should we avoid ultimatums? One common argument may be because you may not hear what you want to hear. And that could hurt. read more...